Fellow #ADHD kids, what elaborate new planning/organization systems and rituals are we going to embrace enthusiastically for the first half of January?
If we can crowdsource data about price, fiddliness, cult following, # of dedicated subreddits, # of naturally organized people who swore it would change our lives or said “if I can do it anyone can!”, etc, then I can get a jump start on shame spiral trajectory calculations!
My poor therapists (all): Have you tried to-do lists?
Me: Yes! I love making them, but I constantly forget to check. Also putting a task on the list can “solve” its urgency & I forget. Whereas if I DON’T write it, the terror of forgetting might keep it in focus!
A friend just left a crappy relationship, and expressed some shame about how she'd talked the relationship way up on social media when things were good (photos, lovey-dovey statuses). She felt afraid or ashamed to tell the truth b/c of the picture she'd painted before.
I sat with that for a day or so - b/c I admit having a moment of "Wait, weren't you the happiest couple who ever lived?" reaction when I heard they were breaking up.
So I just want to say, hey, it's okay to be really enthusiastic and in love and want to share that with the whole world. It doesn't mean you deserve it when things go bad, or you owe the world maintaining the image of your relationship like it's some fucking brand.