Now that the madness has slowed for a sec: a friend pointed out that she’s been asked by several men what the best way might be to respond to difficult days like the past couple of days. And my DUDES...
This is a well-meaning question, and I applaud you for the thought behind asking it. I do! You wanna be proactive!
But it’s also true that women are disproportionately affected by this story and the unevolved ways dialogue plays out.
That has material consequences beyond the noise (And [gestures broadly] the noise is constant). Many women have to had to spend an unreasonable amount of time explaining, defending, always defending, while so many men get to play the “I’m just asking questions” card.