What's a dirty secret that everybody in your industry knows about but anyone outside of your line of work would be scandalized to hear?
Jonathan Korman @miniver
The software industry is like if you made houses with construction workers but no architects.
Usually no one knows what the thing will be like when it is finished; the programmers just start building, and we make changes as they go.
elliot porter @easyp82
To follow your statement with a secret from the construction industry. Architects play a big role in larger constructions projects, in home building they’re almost completely worthless.
Trauma is cumulative. You don't cure it. You don't get past it. The only way you "deal" with trauma is by integrating it into your self-understanding, essentially growing into a newer, hopefully more compassionate person in the process.
Part of why I resent snark culture so much is because it made the left less safe for vulnerability. Irony set the movement back years because people are terrified of talking sincerely about emotional suffering, mental health and social alienation.
There's universality in how the body relates to trauma, universality that transcends race, gender, border and nations. It's something literally all of us could be learning more about to relate to one another. But nah, why, when we can just keep shitting on each other constantly.