I used to wonder why so many over 40 and single girlfriends had given up on dating. I finally get it. You think that the under 40 and single dating is bad, the over 40 market is soul sucking. Same games and bullshit with even slimmer pickings.
I'm about to piss someone off. Far too many men, as they grow older, don't take care of themselves. Yet your sense of male entitlement makes you think you deserve a hot looking woman when you need a body sized hefty bag.
Then since I live in Maine. A place with not too many brothas, I'm confronted with the reality that most white men don't age well. I'm talkingng dude my age, who look a good 20 years older. pic.twitter.com/ep1epWtifW
Maine is a wasteland if you find yourself single and middle-aged in this state. Your friends don't know anyone and the same 79 single men are on Tinder, Bumble and OKC. Honestly, I should write about some of my adventures.
You meet a dude over 40 in Maine with his shit together, the odds are he's a playa. He's a fucking unicorn and he knows it. Don't let him be fit and have a sense of style too. pic.twitter.com/0N1YeYRx3D
So if you are a single middle aged woman in Maine, your options are: full cougar, f*ck it, or get a personal maintenance man and build a good support system and live your best life.
Lastly, living on an island, while lovely, adds another layer of complication to dating in Maine. Nothing worse than going to the mainland on an off day to meet someone and it's awful. Due to the boat schedule, that could be upwards of 3 wasted hours.
For coffee I could have had at home. Oh, the middle aged guys, they love coffee dates. I don't want coffee at 3 in the afternoon. pic.twitter.com/sfJ1Im6QQi
Best coffee date(not) was the therapist who showed up looking like Jerry Garcia. Then asked for a second date...to ride bikes around my island.
First date, coffee which you didn't pay for and then you want to ride a bike around my island. Sorry, we aren't compatible. Besides, I never learned how to ride a bike.
actual importance things @toastertahani
Studies have shown that once black women reach a certain age, they remain happily single for a myriad of reasons including all the shit you just named.
There might be some cool ass middle aged men out here but I'm doubtful that they live in Maine.
Seriously, life is too short to settle. I've got friends, family and work, which fill my soul. While I do get lonely during the holidays, I also know it will pass.
Also, don't let your friends who haven't been single since 97 give you dating advice. Many things about dating haven't changed but many things have. Once you are in a relationship, that's one thing but getting to that place is so different now.
Don't even get me started on the stroke factor of many men as they inch closer to 50. I got a girl, who calls em two pump chumps. Fellas, take care of yourselves so you can keep up as you age.
While I'm talking specifically about being 45 and single in Maine. These experiences are not just about location. I've got single friends all over the country in their 40's and 50's and most of us are having similar experiences.